tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2963973022593930704.post6977790052381716071..comments2024-03-15T18:27:32.697-07:00Comments on 86,400 Seconds: Monday MusingsTarahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03052375488090209961noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2963973022593930704.post-69182283638634791482016-09-20T16:18:48.322-07:002016-09-20T16:18:48.322-07:00glad you can take a break, and totally relax. Th...glad you can take a break, and totally relax. The unending pressure, not good, you have handled it so smoothly. Can't wait to see your photos.<br />Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14980932795965201782noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2963973022593930704.post-54209717793086889392016-09-20T16:06:41.940-07:002016-09-20T16:06:41.940-07:00Went to the shuttered Boardwalk today and took pic...Went to the shuttered Boardwalk today and took pictures. 75 beautiful degrees and sunny. Took pics of a volley ball game on the sand. Quite relaxing.Tarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03052375488090209961noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2963973022593930704.post-75363886197994617052016-09-20T16:04:32.587-07:002016-09-20T16:04:32.587-07:00That's for sure, not easy for anyone. I am enj...That's for sure, not easy for anyone. I am enjoying my time away, walking by the beach and taking pictures. Tarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03052375488090209961noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2963973022593930704.post-42138367423411288862016-09-20T16:00:06.553-07:002016-09-20T16:00:06.553-07:00It is definitely challenging in so many ways to be...It is definitely challenging in so many ways to be the caregiver. I understand the absolutely necessity to take care of yourself. I'm sure your time with L and the family will be restorative in every way. Take care, my good friend.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2963973022593930704.post-31203887328630860942016-09-19T16:54:50.395-07:002016-09-19T16:54:50.395-07:00Sending love to you, Tara. There came a time, sev...Sending love to you, Tara. There came a time, seven years after our mother died, when I came to the end of my ability to be the only family member available to help my father. It took a case of shingles in the spring of 2001 for me get to the point where I could say to my father, "I am exhausted. I can't help you anymore." He was 88 years old, was living in an assisted living apartment and was mentally and financially able to take care of himself. That August, I received a phone call letting me know that he was in the hospital again with heart problems, and I knew I could not go through another round with him and his emotional abuse, confirmed by several medical professionals. I called my sister in Seattle and said, "You are going to have to help Dad. I can't." A week or so later, he made the decision to move to Seattle. My sister and brother-in-law picked up where I let go. He lived for another 1-1/2 years in an assisted living apartment in Seattle. Our relationship improved during that time, although it took a long time before I wasn't physically and emotionally exhausted. I did all I could until I couldn't do anymore. If I could do things differently, I would have called on my sisters before my health was compromised. This isn't advice. This is just the story of how it was for me and my family. Good to know that you will be spending time with your daughter and her family soon.amhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09212213177713917828noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2963973022593930704.post-25188242672053202032016-09-19T16:08:56.424-07:002016-09-19T16:08:56.424-07:00No, it is not selfish. You cannot risk your own h...No, it is not selfish. You cannot risk your own health responding to the crises they make for themselves. Enjoy the visit with your daughter and grandson.NCmountainwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00615765649828716560noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2963973022593930704.post-27438783641026101412016-09-19T14:30:02.373-07:002016-09-19T14:30:02.373-07:00You are wise for understanding this. Caregivers of...You are wise for understanding this. Caregivers often die first; so sometimes a person has to let this sort of thing go when the one needing help denies you. Take care of you, Tara. You are precious and in the end, you are the only one you can truly help. They need to recognize their situation. I worry about it for myself hoping I will recognize my own needs at the time. It's not easy for you or the oldsters.Rain Trueaxhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07994628226501093880noreply@blogger.com