Wednesday, December 7, 2022


I watched this beautiful film today.  I love Stanley Tucci and Colin Firth, so this 2020 film was a natural for me.  It deals with some pretty rough topics and I had strong reactions to the characters motivations.  It's a complex story about love, living with memory loss (dementia and or Alzheimers), what it means to be human and in control of your destiny.  The couple are adorable, and obviously have been together for a long time.  Excellent acting, here.  Each represents a realistic view of what they want to have happen as one of them declines.  And they are different.  Much like Steve and me, the man in decline makes key decisions that will mean the end of their relationship, and the other man fights back at this, imploring his husband to let him be there for him, come thick and thin, to the end.  It was, for me, a very familiar conundrum. A painful one.

When Steve asked me to leave and let him die alone, I was mostly very PISSED OFF.  How dare he make this decision for the both of us.? I wasn't able to find my compassion until the very end, spending his last week with him in nursing care.  It was only then I really understood what he wanted to shield me from.  Still didn't like it, but I understood and forgave.  So, yes, this movie really affected me (triggered, as the young folks say).  Carthartic for me to see this film.

Next month will be three years since Steve left us.  It seems like just yesterday and it also seems an eternity.  I am more able now to remember the good times and what fun we had together.  That's a blessing.

So, if you're up for a really good film that gets emotionally tough but has resolution, Supernova is for you.  If you have film favorites you'd like to share, please do!


  1. My memory is so bad I had forgotten that Steve had Alzheimers and that it's almost three years that he's gone. I worry that I'm heading down that path much more quickly than I had imagined. We may watch this movie, if I remember.

    1. You're off the hook - he didn't have Alzheimers. He had Parkinson's Dementia, which is pretty much the same, symptom wise. Tara

  2. 37paddington:
    I wonder sometimes how we survive such loss. This is such a poignant post.

    1. I wonder, too. But we do, if we are lucky. Life becomes even more sweet. when you've seen first hand how it can be taken. Tara


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